Well.... It was a good run

[peter mcneil]

So she's 31, and pregnant for about 4-5 weeks already?

Yeah, chances are the kid is being carried to term. After about another month, chances will be significantly higher, and by late February, it's almost a lock the baby will be born.

I did not know they could do a non-invasive paternity test during pregnancy. Interesting.

If you were informed tomorrow of a miscarriage, would you be happy, sad, or have mixed feelings? Let's assume the miscarriage was from natural causes and occurred because the baby couldn't be carried to term, so there wouldn't be a factor of feeling bad for the child-to-be not making it. I'm just asking from the standpoint if you would be happy for this to be over with no impact to your life, or if you've invested your emotions into being a father and would be saddened by that failing to happen.

That's literally changing daily. Had you asked me that question 2 days ago my answer would have been different. I'm quickly becoming emotionally invested for several reasons. At this point I'd lean more to the side of being upset about it.

As far as the non invasive... Still reading up on it and will make the calls starting Tuesday. Apparantly it's possible to do through blood tests, but that seems to be something new and maybe not available here or just bullshit.

According to my sister who is an OBGYN there is no non invasive paternity test until the baby is born. She says there are risks as high as 1/200 chance of miscarriage to do an in utero paternity test. 1/200 odds seem shitty and not worth it to me. Maybe just trust the girl it's yours and roll with it until the baby is born. My sis is not a geneticist or expert on paternity tests so she said there could be a way she isn't aware of.

Most men don't get that invested in a child until the baby is born, maybe you're different and very paternal but I didn't develop a significant bond with my son until a couple months after birth.