I think you raise some good points.

One issue with Ashley Sleeth is that she's the longtime girlfriend of high stakes pro Jesse Sylvia, and features him in her videos. This pushes out the simp contingent, who might be watching with the fantasy of dating her at some point. Even if these guys don't have a realistic path in doing so, at least they can have the fantasy that one day they might run into her in a poker room and impress her. When it's clear that she's in love with a successful high stakes pro, it kinda takes the wind out of those sails. At that point, she might as well be a dude vlogger, as far as they're concerned.

In fact, as we discussed over in the SlotLady thread, that's why SlotLady went to such pains for years to keep her live-in boyfriend hidden from her viewers.

Does Poker Face Ash have a boyfriend, too?